Sex Education is a tricky thing to talk about. It involves many sensitive topics that can be hard for teens to fully understand and process with very little to no real life experience. Understanding sex before you have it can make all the difference.
1. Sex Can Be Awkward
This is probably one of the bigger obstacles first timers face. Sex probably will be awkward for the first couple of times, whether you decided to wait until after marriage or not. There is a lot of artificial pressure about how sex is supposed to be, but there isn’t necessarily a “right way” to do it.
2. Communication Is Key
Really great sex is a two way street. Don’t expect your partner to know what you like or want if you haven’t told them, and if something isn’t working for you, speak up. Don’t be afraid to ask what they want or don’t want.
3. Safe Sex Is Super Important
And it’s not just about avoiding diseases, either. While that is an important aspect of safe sex, there is a very real emotional bond that exists while having sex, unless you choose to completely ignore it. If you don’t feel emotionally confident and safe, you might be better off waiting.
4. Sex Is About More Than Intercourse
Sex can include so many different things. It doesn’t just have to be about the physical actions you take. One of the things people tend to underestimate is that intimate sex is way better than casual sex. Building a relationship with someone before you have sex with them is all part of the experience.
5. Use Protection
This doesn’t warrant much of an explanation. Not only will this prevent disease, but it will prevent accidental pregnancy as well.
6. Don’t Let Expectations Limit You
A lot of people have certain expectations when it comes to sex. But as one expert put it, “Sexuality is fluid.” Meaning that sexuality can can be morphed and changed depending on what you want and like. Don’t be afraid to try new things, and don’t be discouraged if it isn’t always working out at first.