Family Matters

100 Questions to Ask Your Teen Other Than How Was School?

Try Asking The Questions That Really Matter and Actually Have a Meaning Conversation Struggling to come up with things to ask your adolescent child in those few precious moments you have together? Here are some suggestions. As children enter adolescence and spend more time away with friends or on their own, it easy for parents to feel a bit disconnected. When we do get a chance to interact, this gap can make conversations awkward and ...

Grief and Recovery

Voices Voices. I heard voices when the doctor told us our baby was dead. “Your wife is going to need you to be strong for her,” one voice said. “It’s going to be hard for her for a while,” added another. “Time to step up and put those husband pants on,” a third voice challenged. And like the good man I was raised to be, I stiffened my upper lip, squared my jaw, straightened my shoulders, ...

Schools and Early Therapy-Needs identification

It's Time to Put Our Money Where Our Mouths Should Be 1.2 million students drop out of U.S. schools every year. That's roughly 7,000 every day, or 1 every 26 seconds, according to data compiled by folks at ChildTrends.org and DoSomething.org. And this is with the dropout rate falling 3% from 1990 to 2010. or 12.1% to 7.4%. If it's not ok to let even one child drop out of school, no matter the reason, how did it get to be ok for m...

Parenting and Teening

Dancing on a Rope: Parenting and Teening "Teach your children well... Teach your parents well... Just look at them and sigh, And know that they love you." Graham Nash For years before my daughter was born, I had recurring nightmares that her mother would give birth to a teenager.  The ludicrous physical pain aside, just the thought of having to deal with hormones on parade right off the bat scared me to death. Having bee...

Cell Phones: Pandora's Box Redux

Cell Phones: Pandora's Box Redux Everyone has one…or more. There are more of them than people in the United States, recently reported the Federal Communication Commission (FCC).  Further, the number of times and the length of each time they are used have been precipitously increasing over the last decade. What are they? Cell phones. Yup, cell phones. Duh, right? And it’s not just adults these days that have them.&nb...

The Low Down on Vaping and Your Kids

The Low Down on Vaping and Your Kids The Food and Drug Administration lists “vaping” as one of several electronic nicotine delivery systems, including e-cigarettes, e-pipes, hookah pens, and vape pens, and is in the process of regulating the new addition to the smoking world. The American Lung Association is concerned that vaping will be the next “gateway” to smoking cigarettes and marijuana. 6% of all vaporize...

Blaming Parents, Finally

Who’s Really to Blame for Failure in Education? “If your kids are disrespectful little shits, parents, it’s your fault,” said George Carlin.  There.  It’s finally been said.  It’s about time we started blaming parents for something.  Failures in education seem like a good place to start. I was a teacher.  I saw it so often in schools, I could hardly keep myself from po...

To Parents of An Angry Troubled Teen or Young Adult: Here's Some Advice

Anger in Troubled Teens and Young Adults Everyone feels anger. Whether it stems from standing in a long line behind a senior citizen whose attempting to pay with expired war-bonds, or finding out you're highly underappreciated, sci-fi show is getting canceled -  we all feel rage at one point or another. Be that as it may, teenagers and young adults often struggle with handling their inner-rage more so than adults. In fact, there...

Your Teen Has ADHD And You Don't Even Know It

It's common for a parent to say of their attention stricken teen, "Shouldn't my teen have outgrown this by now?" You watch your child act with little regard for the consequences, become easily distracted from a task, and be seemingly unable to organize their time and activities. Meanwhile, you barrage your child with insidious comments like, "you're acting like a five-year-old," or "When will you ever grow up and act your age?" Getting...