So simple, it seems ridiculous.
Throughout our lives we are drawing lines, lines that we assure ourselves we will never cross. Then obstacles in life happen and we find ourselves slowly making one exception after another. Then one day those lines all but vanish. We find ways to justify having to step over those lines, ways to rationalize choices we’ve made, all because it is easier than admitting we’ve lowered our expectations and standards for ourselves. It isn’t until we hit rock bottom, until there is no room left to draw new lines, that we start wondering how we got to where we are.
Yet, we don’t have to hit rock bottom in order to change the way our life is going. We can begin anew anytime we want to, so long as we have the desire to do so. I am a big fan of self-reflection, of learning about yourself, of knowing who you are and what you want out of life. When it is all said and done, it is all about the steps you take in order to move yourself forward.
If you were to look at any program designed around self-improvement, you would find they all have something in common. It’s all about that first step, the one required in order to affect change. That first step is the ability to recognize there is something that needs changing. It is one of life’s truisms that we cannot escape. Cliche as it might be, it is essential. Take a look at your life, find out what you want to fix, and then figure out what you have to do in order to do so.
It isn’t enough to simply know what you want to change, you need to make it your priority. Instead of telling yourself, lying to yourself, that you will start it tomorrow… or the day after… or the day after that, you need to work at it. It needs to become your focus, your goal. No one else is going to do this for you, no one else is responsible to ensure you are on the right path. If you are putting others needs before yourself, then how can you expect to make the changes.
You need to synchronize your desire with actions. Life isn’t going to hand you anything, life isn’t fair, life doesn’t care. If you want things to change, then YOU need to care, YOU need to make it happen. The only way to do so is if you push aside all the unnecessary garbage, all the excuses as to why you can’t do this or that, and just go for it. If your goals and your desires are aligned, then it will be that much more difficult to stop you.