Secure Attachments: How Child Trauma Can Carry Into The Adult, And What Can Be Done About It
Written by Shayne Gallagher, Posted on , in Section Family Matters
Issues that Drag Us Down as Adults Started in Our Childhood - Secure Attachments Gone Wrong?
An incredible message from Noel McDermott about "secure attachments" gone wrong developed in childhood. Noel McDermit A psychotherapist and counselor working in addiction and recovery, relationship issues and codependency, asl well as couples with kids.
Many abused children cling to the hope that growing up will bring escape and freedom.
The personality formed in the environment of coercive control is not well adapted to adult life. The survivor is left with fundamental problems in basic trust, autonomy, and initiative. She approaches the task of early adulthoodâ€•â€•establishing independence and intimacyâ€•â€•burdened by major impairments in self-care, in cognition and in memory, in identity, and in the capacity to form stable relationships.
"She is still a prisoner of her childhood; attempting to create a new life, she re-encounters the trauma"
â€• Judith Lewis Herman
"Experience has taught us that we have only one enduring weapon in our struggle against mental illness: the emotional discovery and emotional acceptance of the truth in the individual and unique history of our childhood"
â€• Alice Miller
"Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive. When someone enters the pain and hears the screams healing can begin"
â€• Danielle Bernock
Parenting Tips - How to Develop Good Attachment with your Child
Watch more expert parenting videos from Kidsinthehouse. Gordon Neufeld, PhD, Psychologist, and Author, shares advice for parents on how to develop a good attachment with his or her child including various steps depending on the age of the child.